It all happened unexpectedly.

Before her, the last thing youd hear me say is touch me, babyIm touched out.

Id prefer everyone to leave me alone.

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My life at 43, with two young kids, is vastly different than it was in my 20s.

In other words, our kinks have gone from making out in bars to weighted blankets and seltzer.

Chappells music/personae suggest that many roles can coexist.

This doesnt have to be a balancing act at all; we can contain multitudes, says Downs.

And does it happen?

A chorus of female voices ring out.

Somehow, Roan has already embraced the lessons most of us dont learn until our 40s or 50s.

What mother, especially those who have battled postpartum depression, cant relate?

When Roan set boundaries with fans, I applauded her and took note for myself.

She reminds us of the adventures and rage of youth.

), but all middle-aged moms were once 20-somethings, the world flashing, bright, and dramatic.

Roan has helped us reconnect with all of that.