Imagine a relationship thats entirely free from emotional attachment.
you might say exactly how you feel without fear of retribution, as can your partner.
The sex is incredible.
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And you dont have to ever meet anyones friends or parents.
It was pretty straightforward.
And maybe that used to be the case, but in 2024, something has shifted.
That is, among those who know how to make them work.
We were super comfortable with each other and I just enjoyed hanging out with him so much.
No topic was off-limits, and we always had fun; it was pretty much drama-free.
Now, that dynamic has transitioned into something else: a close friendship.
He came and stayed over when I found out my grandad had died, adds Kate.
Were both in long-term relationships now and keep in touch all the time.
This could range from no date nights to no daytime communication to no sexless sleepovers.
Communication was essential, says Bella.
I had this boundary where I didnt want him shagging around with my friends.
Of course, this doesnt always work out.
He did end up going on a date with someone I knew behind my back, adds Bella.
We got past it just by talking about our feelings.
Talking constantly was also key for Frankie.
Eventually I slowly began to back off without explaining why.
I didnt handle that situation as well as I would now.
Our friendship has never been quite the same since.
Still, recognizing when the situation is no longer serving you and getting out then and there is crucial.
Many f*** buddy scenarios go on for longer than they should, says Moyle.
If youre unsure, there are a few questions to ask yourself.
Think about how you might feel if they mention other partners or dates, suggests counselor Georgina Sturmer.
If this triggers a moment of jealousy, then thats a sure sign that youre not quite comfortable.
This can mean letting go of conventions were told to bring to monogamous relationships.
There just cant be anything hidden.
*Names have been changed
