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In the end, not everyone can take that time and some of these expenses on.
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Thats a good way to figure out whats going on and what’s expected of you.
Whether or not you could do those things is up to you.
If you genuinely cant make it to the actual nuptials, then obviously, the bride will understand.
Still, its tough to be in the position of turning downa hopeful bride.
it’s possible for you to say no.
Nobody can control the reaction you get from your friend that you say no to, says Post.
I think let someone know that you are so happy for them and you want to support them.
you could say, I really, really am honored to be asked to be a bridesmaid.
However, its a role I found Im not great at playing.
Is there anything like that that I could do for you instead?
It can be really, really hard, shares Post.
Bridesmaids are not required to go to any of those eventsbachelorette party, showers, anything, she shares.
What they are required to do is show up for the rehearsal, the ceremony, and the reception.
But nobodyhasto say yes to any of those parties."
The key is to have it as soon as you’re free to.
The longer you wait, the more difficult it is on yourself and the bride.
Dont leave her in a bind; dont put shock value on it.
The sooner the better."
Dont be angry, Weiss says.
Just be gentle, be honest, and talk about it.
Explain that gently, and the bride will understand.
Youre allowed to bow out, or ask to just be a regular bridal party member.
I am so excited to go to your wedding and Im really happy for you.
But just don’t ask me to be that.
She adds, A lot of us know when we have a friend who this will be torture for.
You know what I mean?
Give her the break.
Ask your cousin instead.
