He sometimes comes out with things that mortify me slightly.
But at the same time, hes really kind.
What you think you want is often different from what you need.
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It makes us consider each other in terms of ticked boxes.
give a shot to think more about how the people you date make you feel.
I knew I could do or say almost anything, and it wouldnt change how he felt about me.
We didnt end up together, but the experience has changed me.
I mean, youve probably dated him.
That feeling does exist, but it doesnt come after three dates.
Its the result of really getting to know someone, asking them big questions, experiencing things together.
If someone disrespects you, dump them.
Ive even gotten over them more quickly.
In accepting less, you are, by default, telling yourself thats what you deserve.
You cant intellectualize your way out of that.
Id been unsure about him when we were seeing each other.
Id not communicated as well as I could have.
Afterwards, I assumed all his friends hated me and pictured them dragging me at the pub.
Sometimes theres cause to worry, but most of the time, theyre fine.
They might even have a new girlfriend.
So dont waste time fretting or feeling guilty.
Instead, just think about whatyouwant, because I promise you, thats what theyre doing.
I told myself I wanted to go out, that it would be fun.
Really, I just wanted him to see me looking hot and unbothered.
I know from experience this never happens.
But theres nothing you could have doneyoure already great, and he knows that because its obvious.
