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Dear Shon,
I found out recently that my ex died.
He was very young and it was a real shock.
I hadnt spoken to him for a few years.
Maybe that was a selfish assumption in the first place.
I feel pretty hopeless in general.
How do you get closure in a relationship when the other person has gone?
Is that even possible?
Sincerely,
L.
Dear L
I am sorry for your loss.
This all sounds very natural and proportionate to such desperately sad news.
I will never speak to this person I love again is almost impossible to bear.
The truth is that this happens very rarely.
Dont hold back, get it all out.
Say everything you never got to say.
When that is done, you might destroy the letter.
Did you and your ex have any mutual friends?
Sometimes, sharing our grief with others who knew the deceased can counteract the loneliness of loss.
