The first thing I said when my wifeproposedwas, Obviously, yes.

Weddingstend to be a whole productionthats a large part of their appeal.

Decorations become a life-or-death scenario.

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And its supposed to bethe best day of your life.

Essentially, though, its a fancy way of describing a wedding thats been broken up into bite-sized parts.

The legal signing on one day.

The actual ceremony further down the line.

And then a party sometime in the futureor however you want to spin it.

Crucially, the deconstructed parts dont have to occur in any particular order or time frame.

Essentially, people dont want a single day thats so full-on they can barely take a breath.

They want to savor the whole thing, and taste it.

That day was solely about us and our vows to one another, Milly said of her legal ceremony.

Whereas our black-tie event in Mallorca was very much a group celebration and sharing a joyful experience.

You dont have to wear atraditional wedding dressif you dont want to.

You dont have to walk down the aisle.

You dont even have to invite anybody, or at least anybody you dont like.