Control freaks have had a bad rap.
If I could just design something all the time…
I have to hold myself back from being like, This is what everyone should do!
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While a desire for control is often seen as an afflictionand it can beStewarts point stayed with me.
And arent they the kinds of peopleoften throw in Awho push new and exciting ideas into the mainstream?
I asked Jodie Cariss, a therapist and founder of the therapy serviceSelf Space, what she thinks.
The term is often used in a detrimental way, she agrees.
I dont think soit means we prefer order and find it enhances our life, says Cariss.
Thats where it becomes something that isnt aspirationalhealthy balance is the way forward.
But you never had control; all you had was anxiety.
The trick is to recognize when your desire for control starts to control you.
The questions to ask are: how does it feel, and how is it impacting your life?
Are you afraid of letting things go and being vulnerable?
Or is your need for control a mechanism to hold it all together?
I always encourage clients to explore the opposite of what they find comes naturally.
From there, it’s possible for you to find a middle ground.
But for ussoftcontrol freaks, its all about leaning into the positive elements of control.
