My friend met someone when she was out the other night at karaoke.
because he liked her so much that she made him say loserish stuff like that.
Would we have gotten on?
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Or would I have asked stiff and awkward questions, like, How do you know James?
or would he have headed off to find the rest of his group?
I tell my brain to shut up.
He would always have liked her more, because shes wonderful and gorgeous.
I might not even have fancied him.
I literally have no idea who he is.
Why am I making this into a competition?
I start to defend their connection in my head, even though I know nothing about it.
I know why it happens.
To survive being single, you need allies.
Im scared of what will happen when they get into relationships; I dont want to be left behind.
We say to each other, Dont you dare get a boyfriend!
Its a joke, but we also kind of mean it.
Theres other stuff, too.
Women are taught to compete with each other, told that there arent enough options around.
And there actually arent.
At every party, theres one decent guy there, and hes probably not over his ex.
Its never good to compare yourself to the people around youwere all on our own paths.
you could apply the same logic to romance.
People are always saying that really annoying phrase about meeting someone when you least expect it.
Well, this is a version of expecting it.
And the pressure to find someone only gets worse when the cold weather hits and cuffing season begins.
Maybe hes just not in the right headspace to meet anyone.
And even though I dont want to admit it, a very small part of me is relieved.
