But for Lily Allen, it was having children.
Or so she joked, during a recent appearance on theRadio Timespodcast.
Lily Allen is funny.
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Which I think says something about how we treat parenthood in popular culturebut thats a matter for another day.
Does having children ruin your career?
Being a female pop star in the early 21st century is a fairly uncommon career.
Theres further context to those quotes thats worthy of consideration, too.
It was a choice.
It was a choice informed by her own childhood and her instinct and her resources.
Because when women say it all what theyre often heard to say is a career and children.
But thats not what were saying.
Thats not it all.
There are certainly other things to add to the list, but thats my starting point for it all.
Thats the bare bones of it all.
All of these things directly relate to the decision to have a go at get pregnant.
It gave me an insight into an experience shared by millions of people across the world.
It made me appreciate my time and work in a way I hadnt done before.
It brought people into my life that I love and am grateful for.
But I will never be a pop star.
