I’m someone who triesveryhardat everything.
In fact, very few things have ever come naturally to me, if at all.
(At least thats what I took away from the comment.)
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Style, as it turns out, is work.
Because you cannot just go and haul your way into having style.
It just doesn’t work that way.
It takes time to figure out what you like.
“All these women and men we consider icons?
They learned from others.
So why is it then that we continue to feign nonchalance when it comes to personal style?
Or perhaps the paradox lies in the way we equate effortlessness with exclusivity.
“Effortlessness symbolizes the ultimate luxury, shares personal stylist and writerHeather Hurst.
For them, Randolph noted, effort is not just about looking goodit’s a sign of pride.
Of course, theres privilege wrapped up in the notion of effortless style, too.
Wealth, access, and time shape how one curates their look.
“The discourse of ‘is it style or is she just skinny?’
exists for a reason,” Hurst adds.
“Weve been trained to conflate thinness with good taste.”
Thats not to say that effortlessness is limited to a privileged background though.
My father has always had effortless style, and he grew up poor, shares Kuan.
For him, effort came from observation, through watching films, and paying attention to culture.
The same notion is true in the beauty space.
As Randolph points out, theres a pervasive narrative in certain beauty circles that is meant to be exclusionary.
This idea clashes with the reality that effort and satisfaction are often intertwined.
The truth is, effort is always present, whether or not its visible.
The effort was already put in when I purchased the item and put it in my wardrobe.
The best dressers never endorsed detachment, so why do we?
After all, if were not putting intention behind our actions and choices, what is it all for?
Maybe, then, effort is what makes personal style meaningful.
Isnt that what makes fashion (and life) fun?
“I still play and experiment with my clothes,” Johnson adds.
“If getting dressed ever becomes purely regimented, thats a problem.
Its my joy, thats why I put time into it.”
