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I havent always been great at maintaining my friendships.
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Which is just an excuse for laziness, really.
Then there are those friends Id quite like to message, but cantor wont.
These are the drifters: the people who somehow slid out of view as our lives took different paths.
Best friends Samantha and Carrie—seen here in the first film version ofSex and the City—have drifted apart in the spin-off show,And Just Like That.
They moved away, or we found ourselves overwhelmed by family commitments and work.
Others, well, Im really not sure what happened.
Zara, an old work pal with whom I was close, until I inexplicably wasnt.
Julianne Moore and Tilda Swinton play estranged friends inThe Room Next Door.
Of course, many people are destined to only play a cameo in our lives, and thats OK.
Some friendships dont end well and are probably best left in the past (hello, college housemates).
Sorry to say it, but were actually quite cowardly on this front.
Not that weve actually asked.
Perhaps its why we seem to jump on rekindling success stories when they happen.
We crave examples of it all working out.
Julianne Moore and Tilda Swinton play estranged friends inThe Room Next Door.
There has to be a better way.
What was your role in it?
Do you really want to rekindle or do you just feel guilty?
You might be surprised at just how resilient some of your old friendships can be.
And if they dont respond, at least you tried.
But scarier than the thought of losing your friendship for good?
Just dont ask whether Im brave enough to contact my own drifters right now, OK?
